This is What Adrian Wants from Kate: Talk Time for Him and Her!
This table shows the things Adrian expects from Kate in their relationship, considering his role as the man and her role as the mom of their kids. Take a look and see if these are similar to the things you want in your own relationship.
- Are there things on this list that you expect too?
- Are there any missing things that are really important to you?
Talking about expectations with your partner can help you understand each other better and build a stronger relationship!
| Expectation | What if not met |
|---|---|
| Help Around the House: Sharing chores like dishes, laundry, or picking up after themselves. | More work for Adrian, feeling like he has to take on more than his share. |
| Listen When He Talks: Paying attention, looking at him, and not interrupting when he shares his thoughts and feelings. | Feeling ignored or like his opinions don’t matter. |
| Honesty and Truthfulness: Telling the truth, even if it’s difficult. | Feeling like he can’t trust her, worried she’s hiding something. |
| Kindness and Respect: Using nice words and avoiding yelling or name-calling, especially in front of the kids. | Feeling hurt or disrespected, leading to arguments. |
| Teamwork on Decisions: Talking things through, considering his opinion when making decisions about the family or household. | Feeling unimportant, like his ideas aren’t valued. |
| Being on Time: Arriving when she says she will or letting him know if she’s running late. | Feeling frustrated and like plans get messed up, especially when it impacts the kids’ routines. |
| Keeping Things Tidy: Putting things away after using them and maintaining a clean and organized home environment. | Feeling like he’s the only one cleaning up after everyone, leading to a messy house. |
| Support for His Goals: Cheering him on and believing in his dreams, both big and small. | Feeling alone, like she doesn’t care about his success and fulfillment. |
| Planning Fun Activities: Taking the initiative to plan date nights, weekend outings, or other activities that allow them to connect and have fun as a couple. | Feeling bored or neglected in the relationship, leading to a sense of disconnect. |
| Open Communication: Talking openly about feelings, concerns, and needs, even the tough stuff. | Feeling confused or frustrated, with problems left unresolved. |
| Showing Affection: Initiating hugs, kisses, or holding hands to show she cares | Feeling lonely or unwanted, lacking a physical connection. |
| Celebrating Special Occasions: Making birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries special for him and for the family as a whole. | Feeling forgotten or unimportant, missing opportunities to create lasting memories. |
| Sharing Responsibilities: Taking care of bills, groceries, or errands, creating a fair division of household labor. | Feeling overwhelmed with all the responsibilities, especially when caring for the kids. |
| Willingness to Compromise: Finding solutions that work for both of them, even when they disagree. | Feeling like he always has to give in, leading to resentment. |
| Financial Responsibility: Managing money wisely, paying bills on time, and avoiding unnecessary spending. | Feeling stressed or worried about finances, lacking trust in their financial future. |
| Helping with Errands or Appointments: Offering to run errands or go to appointments with him, lightening his load. | Feeling like he has to do everything himself, lacking support in everyday tasks. |
| Sharing the Housework: Taking care of chores like cleaning, cooking, and taking care of pets, creating a fair balance. | Feeling like he’s the only one doing chores, leading to an unequal workload. |
| Being There for Him: Offering a shoulder to cry on and listening without judgment during difficult times. | Feeling alone or unsupported when he’s feeling down or needs to talk. |
| Putting in Effort: Making an effort to keep the relationship exciting and interesting for both of them. | Feeling like the relationship is one-sided, lacking the spark that brought them together. |
| Being His Best Friend and Partner: Someone he can trust, rely on, and have fun with, both as a partner and a parent. | Feeling lonely or like they’re just roommates, lacking a deep connection. |
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